Bullying

Bullying

It's simple to assume everyone knows what bullying is. But it’s not just aggressive behaviour it can be passive and manipulative, this can make it hard for schools, parents and whanau to identify when someone is being bullied and how to deal with it.
Bullying is:

  • Deliberately harming another person physically or emotionally
  • Misusing power in relationship
  • Is not usually a one off and is constant and consistent


If you feel safe, here is some ways to handle bullying

  • Walk away when bully approaches
  • Concentrate on thinking about something else
  • Yelling stop and walk away
  • Be confident
  • Be positive
  • Be strong
  • Talk to an adult about the problem who can help/step in


What not to do when being bullied

  • Think it's your fault
  • Fight back
  • Bully them back
  • Keep to yourself and hope it goes away
  • Skip or avoid school
  • Don't be afraid to tell anyone
  • Hurt yourself


​​You deserve to feel safe:
www.stompoutbullying.org
www.bullyfree.nz
www.thelowdown.co.nz

Helplines

Lifeline – 0800 543 354 


Suicide Crisis Helpline – 0508 828 865 (0508 TAUTOKO)


Healthline – 0800 611 116


Samaritans – 0800 726 666 


Depression Helpline – 0800 111 757 or free text 4202 (to talk to a trained counsellor about how you are feeling or to ask any questions)


www.depression.org.nz – includes The Journal online help service


SPARX.org.nz –  online e-therapy tool provided by the University of Auckland that helps young people learn skills to deal with feeling down, depressed or stressed


Alcohol and Drug Helpline – 0800 787 797 or online chat


​Are You OK – 0800 456 450  family violence helpline


Gambling Helpline – 0800 654 655


Anxiety phone line – 0800 269 4389 (0800 ANXIETY) 


0508MUSICHELP – The Wellbeing Service is a 24/7 online, on the phone and in-person counselling service fully funded by the NZ Music Foundation and provided free of charge to those in the Kiwi music community who can't access the help they need due to hardship and other circumstances. Call 0508 MUSICHELP

Shine –  0508 744 633 confidential domestic abuse helpline


Quit Line – 0800 778 778 smoking cessation help

OUTLine NZ – 0800 688 5463 (OUTLINE) provides confidential telephone support on sexuality and gender issues


Youthline – 0800 376 633, free text 234 or email talk@youthline.co.nz or online chat


thelowdown.co.nz – or email team@thelowdown.co.nz or free text 5626 


What's Up – 0800 942 8787 (for 5–18 year olds). Phone counselling is available Monday to Friday, midday–11pm and weekends, 3pm–11pm. Online chat is available 7pm–10pm daily.


Kidsline – 0800 54 37 54 (0800 kidsline) for young people up to 18 years of age. Open 24/7.


Commonground – a website hub providing parents, family, whānau and friends with access to information, tools and support to help a young person who is struggling.


Parent Help – 0800 568 856 for parents/whānau seeking support, advice and practical strategies on all parenting concerns. Anonymous, non-judgemental and confidential.


Family Services 211 Helpline –  0800 211 211 for help finding (and direct transfer to) community based health and social support services in your area.


Skylight – 0800 299 100 for support through trauma, loss and grief; 9am–5pm weekdays.


Supporting Families In Mental Illness –  For families and whānau supporting a loved one who has a mental illness. Auckland 0800 732 825. Other regions' contact details are listed here.


Shakti Crisis Line – 0800 742 584 (for migrant or refugee women living with family violence


Rape Crisis – 0800 883 300 (for support after rape or sexual assault)


Vagus Line – 0800 56 76 666 (Mon, Wed, Fri 12 noon – 2pm). Promote family harmony among Chinese, enhance parenting skills, decrease conflict among family members (couple, parent-child, in-laws) and stop family violence


Women's Refuge Crisisline – 0800 733 843 (0800 REFUGE) (for women living with violence, or in fear, in their relationship or family)